Do you suffer from torturing weekdays and depressing weekends?

I regularly check the search terms people use to find this website, and one of the search terms that most stands out from this week is: “torturing weekdays and depressing weekends.” I’ve been there, and I know it’s not pretty. And I’m truly sorry that there are people out there who are going through “torturing weekdays and depressing weekends.”

For me, it happened primarily when I was in a dysfunctional relationship for many years. I wrote earlier about how I detached myself from the other person and worked to get free. But for the years I was in that relationship, everything felt dark and horrible and hopeless. Or, as the person searching online put it, I was suffering from “torturing weekdays and depressing weekends.”

In my specific case, I knew exactly what I needed to do to free myself from this downward spiral of hopeless living. But sometimes, when we’re trapped in a tortured and depressing lifestyle, we can be so lost in the murkiness of our depressing life that we have no clue what’s wrong and how to make it better. So what do you need to break free and make changes? […]

By |December 24th, 2012|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Do you suffer from torturing weekdays and depressing weekends?

Are you happy on weekdays, or just on weekends?

The other day, I received an email from someone who ended the message with something like, “We’re one day closer to Friday.” There was a little smiley face at the end. Like it was a happy thing that this person had one less day in their life.

It made me a little sad to read this. Perhaps it was a simple work joke (I truly hope this is the case), but it gave me the sense that this person was actually hoping the week would speed by so Friday would come faster.

Have you ever felt like this?

Do you currently feel like this? Are you thrilled that today is Friday, because you know the weekend is just around the corner? Are you happy that your “real” life starts today at 5pm?


By |November 16th, 2012|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Are you happy on weekdays, or just on weekends?


Ready to Bloom will be two years old next January, and it’s gone through a lot of changes along the way. It started out when I began my journey in coaching and NLP, and it gradually evolved into what it is today: a 30 day program to work toward authentic happiness. Most of my original posts focus on time management, primarily because one of my very first posts was picked up by Freshly Pressed and received an amazing amount of visits in just 24 hours. That post continues to be my top article to this day, with almost 7,500 views…even after changing the domain this year, meaning that the entire blog had to be re-indexed. I was fairly obsessed with time management at that time, and I continued to hone my techniques for prioritizing tasks and getting things done, sharing my experiences and tips here on this blog.

And then I focused on wellness or wellbeing, and what I saw as the nine aspects of wellness: emotional, environmental, financial, intellectual, physical, professional, social, spiritual, and sexual. You’ll still find that some of my blog posts are classified under one or more of these wellness categories. […]

By |October 12th, 2012|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Evolution

Where am I? Habits

Habitual behavior can be a way of allowing ourselves to live on auto pilot, helping us to glide through life while paying little attention to what we really want to do. They are yet another survival mechanism. Part of getting to know ourselves and where we are in life involves becoming aware of our habits.

Habits can be as simple as packing the same lunch for work every day, doing the same exercise workout day after day, and walking or driving the same route to work. How many times have you caught yourself ordering the same meal for lunch yet again? Or do the restaurant staff already know what you’re going to ask for as soon as they see you walk in the door, so they get straight […]

By |July 19th, 2012|Uncategorized|2 Comments

Who am I? Taking a look at what the voices say

We’re onto week 2 of the Who am I? questions. How are the activities coming along?

Today it’s time to take a look at that little voice you  have in your head. You know which one I’m talking about, don’t you? It’s the voice that drags you down with negative talk and builds up the bricks in your ceiling. Today, it’s time to get to know that voice.

I’m going to repeat something I’ve said before: “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” Shakespeare was right: everything in our lives, including our little voice, is neither positive or negative, it simply just is. Please don’t judge yourself by the things that come up in each exercise.

Negative self talk can hold us back from […]

By |September 29th, 2011|Q1: Who am I?|Comments Off on Who am I? Taking a look at what the voices say

Who am I? Taking a look at what you wish for others

It’s probably safe to assume that you want the best for your friends and family and loved ones. Have you ever thought about what you wish for them in life? If you could make a wish that all of your loved ones in life could achieve something special, what would it be?

Print out this list so you can add it to your notebook or journal.
Check all of the following wishes that resonate with you.
If you feel anything is missing, add it t0 the bottom of the list. This is by no means a comprehensive list. It’s just to help you get your ideas flowing.
Next, review the list of wishes that you just selected, and choose your top 5 wishes. You may find this part challenging, […]

By |September 28th, 2011|Q1: Who am I?|Comments Off on Who am I? Taking a look at what you wish for others

Who am I? Looking at your ceiling

Are you standing in your own way of success? Sometimes we’re our own worst enemy, placing  limitations on ourselves and keeping ourselves from doing what we want to do because we convince ourselves that we’ll never be able to achieve our dreams and goals. We may catch a glimpse of our life purpose or passion, but we quickly tell ourselves that we’ll never make it that far. That’s when we build our ceiling of limitations.

Other times, we’ll take on limitations that others have placed for us. Did a family member or a “friend” ever tell you not to try something new because you’d never make it? Has someone ever asked you, “Where are you going to get the money to do that?” Or told you, […]

By |September 27th, 2011|Q1: Who am I?|2 Comments

Who am I? Taking a look at passions

Sometimes, we get so caught up in doing all the things that we think we ought to do, or should do, or need to do, or have to do, that we lose touch with what it is exactly that we want to do. And sometimes we get lost doing all the things that we think other people want us to do or expect us to do. Now, it’s time to get back in touch with exactly what it is that makes our hearts sing: those things that we’re passionate about.

What are your passions in life? Get out your notebook or journal and write down everything that comes to mind. As always, please keep an open mind so you can avoid filtering things out. Also remember not […]

By |September 26th, 2011|Q1: Who am I?|1 Comment

Who am I? Taking a look at hidden traits

How are the activities coming along? As I recommended at the Authentic Happiness Summit, observe yourself on a daily basis. Pay attention each day to the things you don’t like about others, especially people that irritate you in some way: often other people are like a mirror, showing us the things we don’t like about ourselves.

You’ve probably heard the saying that when you point a finger at someone, you have three fingers pointing back at you.It’s true, and it’s no use to go on pretending these things don’t exist. Once we admit they exist, we can accept them. But if we continue to deny them, we’ll never fully get to know ourselves.

Think about all the people in your life: partner, friends, family, teachers, classmates, bosses, […]

By |September 23rd, 2011|Q1: Who am I?|Comments Off on Who am I? Taking a look at hidden traits

Who am I? Taking a look at interests

Another important part of getting to know ourselves is to acknowledge things that we love doing, and one of the questions I suggested exploring at the Authentic Happiness Summit was: What are your interests?

Sometimes, we get so wrapped up in doing all the things that we feel we should do, or need to do, or have to do, that we forget those things that we really want to do. So what things interest you in life?

I’ve already written a post on interests, so I won’t repeat myself here. I’ll just copy the main part of the exercise below.

1. Sit down with your notebook or journal, and list at least 10 responses for each of the following categories:

Things you really love doing.
Hobbies you love. Or wish you had […]

By |September 20th, 2011|Q1: Who am I?|1 Comment