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Where am I going? Be/Do/Have

So you’ve taken a look at your dreams. Now, I’d like you to revisit your dreams for the future, but this time using a completely different technique: be/do/have. You may already be familiar with this concept: I know I’ve come across it at least a couple of times. And this is the perfect stage in the Ready to Bloom process to focus on this.

If you knew you could be anything you wanted, if you knew you could do anything you dreamed of, and if you knew you could have anything you wished for…what would you be? What would you do? What would you have?

It’s important that you really open up your mind to these possibilities. Some people have issues with feeling that they don’t deserve something. Or they may think something is logically impossible.

Forget logic. Just dream.

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Where am I going? Taking a look at dreams

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Note: I’ve moved this post from Q1 to Q3, as it’s more of a forward-facing question than a look at who you actually are, and I’ve updated it a bit. It’s been replaced with an exercise on how to create your personal mission statement. If you’ve already completed this exercise, take a look at it again and make any changes that occur to you. 

You’ve heard me talk about day dreaming rather than goal setting, and you’ve heard me talk about Someday Isle. So you might be surprised that I’m about to ask you to start dreaming. As I mentioned in a previous post, we’re still getting to know ourselves, so let’s just explore for now. Be creative. Get to know yourself. You can always turn them into goals at a later date.

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6 Quick guidelines for goal setting

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Still stuck on Someday Isle? Do you want to get serious about transforming your dreams into goals, but don’t know where to get started?

Remember: a dream is a goal without a deadline. I can’t tell you how many times in my life I’ve realized I need to make a major change and just kept putting it off until I sat down and set a clear, reasonable, achievable deadline to what I wanted to do. And not until then did that dream of a change actually become a part of my everyday thoughts and plans, as I worked toward achieving that goal and making the change I wanted so badly in my life.

Does this sound familiar to you?

First off, choose one of your goals and write it down, either on paper or on your computer. Get it out of your head and into writing so you can clearly see it.

Now think about these guidelines:

  • Is your goal specific and highly detailed?
  • Is it expressed in the present tense, as if it is already a reality?
  • Is it a positive goal, or a negative goal? Meaning, does the statement describe what you do want, or what you don’t want?
  • Does your goal have a precise timescale for achievement?
  • Does it have a clear destination or a measurable outcome? Where is it that you want to be when you’ve accomplished it?
  • Does it have a verifiable outcome? How will you know when you’ve accomplished it?

Did that help you clarify things?

Let’s take one of our Someday Isle dreams: “Someday I’ll lose weight.” Is that specific? No. Is there a timescale or deadline? No. How do you measure the outcome? Who knows. Is losing one pound or one kilo enough to say you’ve reached your goal? Good question.

Not clear at all, is it?

How does this alternative sound? “By June 1st of this year, I weigh 60 kg.” Is this goal specific? Yes. Is it expressed in the present tense? Yes.  Is it a positive goal? Yes. A negative goal in this case would be “By June 1st of this year, I will have lost 5 kg.” Focus on what you do want, which is the target weight of 60 kg., and not what you don’t want, which are those 5 kg. you want to lose.

Does this goal have a precise timescale or deadline? Yes: June 1st, 2011. Does it have a clear destination? Yes: the target weight of 60 kg. Does it have a verifiable outcome? Yes: all the person has to do is to stand on a reliable scale on June 1st and check their weight to verify whether or not they have achieved their goal.

That’s easy, isn’t it? Take that goal you wrote down and rewrite it according to these six guidelines. Does that make it look easier to achieve?

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Escape from Someday Isle

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I was watching a Brian Tracy video last weekend, where he talked about how so many people live on Someday Isle. You’ve heard this before, haven’t you?

“Someday I’ll lose weight.”

“Someday I’ll take that trip around the world.”

“Someday I’ll have a house of my own.”

Have you ever heard yourself saying anything like this? Someday Isle is where all of our dreams live, all the things we want to do someday…unfortunately for most of us, that day never comes. Why? Because they’re dreams, not goals.

Do you know the difference between a dream and a goal?

A dream is a goal without a time limit. Do you have goals or do you have dreams? If you have dreams and not goals, you may be stuck on Someday Isle. Take out your list of dreams and prioritise them. Start with the most important ones and set a due date for when you’d like to achieve them. Break up the larger ones into smaller goals that you can achieve as steps to fulfilling the larger one.

Are you going to stick around Someday Isle, or are you going somewhere? All it takes to get off the island is to set a deadline to that dream, take the first step, and you’re on the path to reaching that goal.

Do you have a list of dreams without deadlines? How often do you sit down and revise your list? What would it take to get you to set priorities and dates for your dreams?

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