So much of what we believe about who we are is wrapped up in things we’ve heard others say about us: family, teachers, classmates, interviewers, colleagues, friends. But as you can imagine, these people only know a part of us. Only we can get to know our complete selves, and it’s our responsibility to do so. No one else can do it for us.
1. Get out your notebook or journal, and ask yourself the following questions. Get as detailed as you can in your answers:
- How would my family members describe me? What does my family have to say about who I am? What I do?
- How would classmates have described me in grade school? How would they have described me in high school? University? Grad school?
- How did my teachers describe me when I was a child in school? What did teachers have to say about me later on in my life? High school? University? Grad school? What kinds of evaluations did I get in school (written evaluations that focused on behaviour and attitude, not just grades)?
- What kinds of feedback have I received from job interviews, either with recruiting agents or with companies? What have they said about my ability to find the ideal job for me?
- What feedback have I received from superiors at work? What have people at work had to say about me? What kinds of reviews have I received?
- How would my friends describe me? What do friends have to say about who I am and the decisions I make in my life?
Getting to know yourself is a life long process, partly because we need to dig deep to get beyond all those things that we’ve taken on from others, and partly because we’re constantly changing throughout life. I hope you’ve enjoyed this process.
Ready to move on? The next questions will be from the Where am I? series.