We’re onto week 2 of the Who am I? questions. How are the activities coming along?
Today it’s time to take a look at that little voice you have in your head. You know which one I’m talking about, don’t you? It’s the voice that drags you down with negative talk and builds up the bricks in your ceiling. Today, it’s time to get to know that voice.
I’m going to repeat something I’ve said before: “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” Shakespeare was right: everything in our lives, including our little voice, is neither positive or negative, it simply just is. Please don’t judge yourself by the things that come up in each exercise.
Negative self talk can hold us back from achieving our goals, by giving us excuses that we’re not able to do something, or that we’re not as good as someone else. Getting to know what the voices say is an important part of getting to know ourselves.
- Start by making note of what your little voice is saying. Record everything in your journal or notebook. Be sure to use something you can carry around with you and actually write down whatever comes up. If you don’t like the idea of carrying a notebook around all day, use a loose piece of paper or send yourself an email, then add the messages to your notebook at the end of the day.
- Keep this up for a week. At the end of the week, you should have a long list of mind chatter messages. Take the time to read through the entire list, noting general themes and recurring topics. What patterns show up? Take a blank page in your journal or notebook and group the chatter topics into sections. This will make it easier to catch them when they come up from now on.
Ask yourself some questions about your mind chatter:
- Does your voice you belittle you?
- Is it critical of your body, mind, or capabilities?
- Does your voice tell you not to try new things because you won’t be good at them?
- Does it say that others are better than you at something?
- Does your voice tell you that you’re not worthy of something?
- Does it tell you you’re a failure at something?
- Does the voice tell you that you’ll never achieve your dreams?
This is just a sampling of things your voice could be saying. Write everything down that comes up. It’s important to acknowledge these things, as part of getting to know yourself. We’ve all had voices tell us things from time to time: negative self talk that can hold us back from achieving our goals. Once we face these voices, we can do something about them.
This is an adaptation of a previous post on the topic.