Monthly Archives: March 2011


Stop wandering through life and get a guidebook

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Many people go through life with no road signs, no road maps, no GPS. They travel life’s journey without a guidebook, and they don’t bother to hire a guide anywhere along the way. The thing is, if you don’t know where you’re going, where are you travelling to? And if you don’t have a destination in mind, are you really travelling, or are you just wandering around?

You’ve probably read this passage from Lewis Carroll before:

“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.
“I don’t much care where —” said Alice.
“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.

How does it apply to your own life? Are you wandering passively through life with no destination in mind? Do you set clear goals for your life and take conscious action to achieve them? Have you asked yourself the three questions?

Setting goals and taking conscious action to work toward achieving them is the only way to get off Someday Isle and take control of your life. Since there’s no one guidebook on life, consider making your own personal guidebook for life.

Take a notebook or set up a folder on your computer to get going. Start with some of the exercises on this blog: whichever ones you think are most useful in your life. You may want to set up separate sections for each exercise, leaving space to review them at a later date. Some ideas:


By |March 31st, 2011|Uncategorized|1 Comment

Easy tips on how to say no

Thanks to Ali for this path photo! Please click on the photo to visit her blog. Thanks!

I’ve said this twice now: “If you don’t know who you are, where you are, and where you’re going, then you have no perspective. You won’t know how to prioritise, and how to get things done and when.” Setting priorities helps me make clear decisions on how to plan my days and weeks, and it makes it easy for me to say no to things that I don’t want to do or that aren’t related to my high-priority goals and activities.

So why is it that some people find it so difficult to say no? Often it’s a case of people putting others’ interests before their own, and not respecting their right to decide how to manage their time. Once you understand what your goals and priorities are, and that your time is yours to manage, saying no becomes easier.

Tips on how to make saying no an easy part of your life:


By |March 30th, 2011|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Easy tips on how to say no

Time management system review

I’m into my second week with my updated time management system, and I wanted to make some observations. First of all, I loved this updated system! It worked very well, and since I’m a visual person, it was a great system for me.

Some observations:

I highlighted tasks using the colour of the day (orange, yellow, green) as soon as I finished them, so I could clearly focus on the non-highlighted tasks and get them done.
Some days I didn’t get everything done, and I carried them down to the next day with a big arrow. This helped me at the end of the week to see what things I didn’t get done, why, and how to better plan the following week.
New things were added to my schedule […]

By |March 29th, 2011|Uncategorized|Comments Off on Time management system review

How to find your dream job

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Professional satisfaction is an issue that comes up frequently in coaching sessions. Some people are in the situation where they are out of work and need to find a new job. Others are currently working in a job they dislike and want to find something new.

The question I ask is: What kind of job?

The answer is often: I don’t know. I don’t know. I don’t know.

And how would it be if you did know? How would you feel if you were 100% positive what your dream job is? What excites you about finding your dream job?

It’s easy to come up with the profession of our dreams if we throw away all of our filters and open up to what things in life really make us happy. We aren’t used to doing this, so we need to re-train our mind to open up and dream. After all, how are you going to find your dream job if you don’t dream about it?

There’s no secret science involved. The only way to find that ideal profession is to focus on ourselves and not on everyone else. Forget what your teachers/parents/family/friends/etc. have told you or what they may want you to do, and concentrate on yourself. Keep in mind that we all change over the years, and what might have been your ideal job ten, five, or even a year ago may not be now.

If you’re ready to explore this, great! Get a notebook or open up a blank document on your computer and ask yourself the following questions. Be sure to be as specific as possible, and write down your answers so you can review them later.


By |March 25th, 2011|Uncategorized|11 Comments

Stretch out of your comfort zone

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Ever feel like you’re stuck in a rut? Things are going the same way they always are…and yet something’s not right. Is there something more? There must be something more out there!

If you’re feeling like this, chances are you’re in your comfort zone. You know: you’re feeling relaxed, content, confident, safe, happy…and maybe also bored? Things are pretty good, and you feel like they could be better.

How to move on from here?


By |March 24th, 2011|Uncategorized|10 Comments

Task meditation to clear your mind and get things done

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If you’ve read Getting Things Done, then you know that “if it’s on your mind, your mind isn’t clear.” So what I’m about to say is certainly nothing new. The question is: have you really gotten it all out of your head?

If our brains are overloaded with to do lists and random tasks, then how are we free to be creative, or to actually think? The grocery list, that phone call we need to make later on in the afternoon, and the email we were supposed to send yesterday and forgot to are all taking up valuable mental bandwidth. There isn’t much room for the more important things.

Get it all out of there and into your preferred task system: diary or planner, to do list, BlackBerry, Google calendar, whatever. It doesn’t matter what system you use, since different people prefer different task solutions. Just be sure to get it all out of your head.

If you’re used to keeping everything in your mind, then it may take a few days to download absolutely everything into a task system and then get used to the new way of dealing with tasks. The intention is to change your previous habits and to make sure everything that needs to be done is in a reliable system, and not in your mind.

How to download tasks from your mind:


By |March 22nd, 2011|Uncategorized|12 Comments

Quick tips to update your time management system

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So far, we’ve looked at mastering the to do list and a time management trick to avoid overload. Both of these systems worked perfectly for me…while I was using them. Then, I wasn’t feeling well for a week, needed some extra rest, and got off schedule for the following two weeks. My idea was to take it easy, since I still wasn’t feeling back to normal, and I basically floated through those two weeks, getting things done, though not as many tasks as I would have liked to.

Which meant I had to completely reorganise my schedule for the next couple of weeks. I have a lot of things going on now, and I need to be sure I’m covering all areas every week without leaving things behind…and not getting burned out in the process. Or worse, making unreasonable to do lists that I can’t complete and then feeling horribly unproductive. So now I have a new system, which is basically a fusion of the two systems I mentioned above.

How does this system work?


By |March 20th, 2011|Uncategorized|3 Comments

Get moving through conscious action

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As I mentioned in a previous post, the Law of Attraction has been very useful in assisting many people around the world in becoming more conscious of their thoughts and intentions, which is an excellent first step. If we aren’t conscious of our thoughts and intentions, then we’re just floating through life, with no real destination in mind. After The Secret came out, I was a huge fan of both the movie and the book, and I loaned them out to everyone and anyone who would accept them.



By |March 17th, 2011|Uncategorized|5 Comments

Practice gratitude

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I’m sure there are a number of things we’re all thankful for, but how often do we actually practice gratitude? Do we really appreciate the things we have, what we’ve learned, and the people in our lives?

You don’t have to wait until Thanksgiving rolls around to start being thankful. When was the last time you stopped and acknowledged that you were grateful for something? What could you do to remind yourself to be grateful?

The point of all this is to focus on what you do have, rather than on what you don’t have. We all have things to be grateful for: think about your health, education, job, family, friends, home, car, clothes, cell phone, heating, cooling, electricity, gas, fresh food, clean water, etc. Remember: there are others who don’t have these things.

Here are some quick ideas:


By |March 15th, 2011|Uncategorized|3 Comments

Transforming our beliefs about money

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How do you feel about money? Is it an issue for you? Do you feel like you’ve never got enough? Like you need some more, and you just can’t figure out how to get it?

Let’s go back to the first question: how do you feel about money? Would any of the following statements apply to you? While reading through the list, if you think of other statements that apply to your beliefs about money, make note of them.

Money is limited.
Time is money.
The love of money is the root of all evil.
I never have enough money.
Having money gives you more options.
If I had more money, I would be more generous with it.
Money doesn’t make you happy.
Money can’t buy happiness.
People who don’t want money don’t have a healthy relationship with it.
People who want money are superficial.
There are more important things in life than money.
Money isn’t everything.
Money doesn’t grow on trees.
Money can only be earned through hard work.
It will take me years to save enough money to buy XYZ.


By |March 8th, 2011|Uncategorized|4 Comments